Igikorwa cyo gusomana ku bakundana benshi bacyifashisha bishimisha. Ni mugihe bamwe bavuga ko kibanziriza imibonano mpuzabitsina mu rwego rwo gutegura imibiri yabo, gusa bamwe ntibabikozwa ahubwo batahwa n’ubwoba iyo babyumvise.
Gukomana byahindutse igikorwa gikorwa kenshi ku
bantu bakundana by’ukuri, gusa havumburwa uburwayi bwa bamwe mu bantu babitinya
ndetse bakabihakanira kure.
Bamwe bakunze
kwitwaza impamvu zitandukana bahakana ko batifuza gusomana zirimo nk’imyemerere,
gutinya uwo mukundana kubera kudahuza imico n’ibindi bitandukanye.
Abahanga mu gusuzuma indwara batangaje ko gutinya gusomana
n’umukunzi wawe ukunda, biterwa n’uburwayi bwitwa Filemaphobia butuma umuntu
agira igihunga n’ubwoba igihe ageze hafi y’iminwa y’umukunzi.
Birasanzwe ko umuntu yakumva ajagaraye mu ntekerezo
igiye agiye gusomana n’umukunzi we, bitewe n’impamvu zirimo kuba ntabyo azi
neza, kuba umukunzi we amusoma amubabaza iminwa cyangwa akamuheza umwuka
ntahumeke neza.
Iyi ndwara ishobora guterwa no kuba umuntu yaragize
ihungabana runaka, cyangwa hakaba hari bimwe abona ku mukunzi we bimwibutsa
ibibi yahuye nabyo, yamwegera agiye kumusoma agatahwa n’ubwoba bukabije
ntabashe kumusoma.
Philamophobia kandi ishobora kwibasira umuntu wafashwe ku ngufu cyangwa agasomwa ku gahato. Nanone iterwa no kutigirira icyizere
ndetse ukaba wakumva ko icyo gikorwa nugikora ushobora kugikora nabi umukunzi
wawe akakwanga cyangwa akagutekereza nabi.
Ikindi kintu kiri mu bitera iyi ndwara harimo kuba
uwo wasomye yaguseka akubwira ko ntabumenyi buhambaye ubifitemo, ugatakaza
icyizere, byahura nuko uri umunyantege nke ukagenderako ukabihurwa.
Kurwara iyi ndwara ntibiterwa n’imyaka runaka kuko uwo ariwe wese yayirwara. Verywell Mind itangaza ko ibi bimenyetso bikurikira byakwereka ko umukunzi wawe arwaye iyi ndwara:
Gukonja cyane igihe umukunzi akwegera ashaka kugusoma , Gutera cyane k’umutima, Kugira iseseme, Kusomana ukebaguza, Kuzana ibyunzw no kumva ubuze umwuka
Ingaruka zikomeye zigera kuri uyu muntu zirimo
guhungira kure abantu bamusaba urukundo kuko atekereza ko ibyo atinya
bizamubaho, kumva ko ari ikigwari kuko ibyishimirwa na benshi we byamunaniye.
Nubwo bimeze bityo, hari impamvu nyinshi zatuma
umuntu yanga gusoma umukunzi we zirimo impumuro mbi iva mu kanwa, kuba
utamukunda bya nyabyo, kuba yagutungura utabishaka akaguhata kubikora no kuba
asomana mu buryo butakunyuze.
Philemaphobia ni indwara yo gutinya gusomana
Iyi ndwara ikunze gutwerwa cyane n'intekerezo no kuvurwa kwayo bisaba kuganirizwa n'abaganga babihuguriwe
TANGA IGITECYEREZO