Hambere byari ikibazo cy’ingume gukundana n’umuntu mutaba mu gace kamwe, byagera ku bihugu bitandukanye byo bigafatwa nka sakirirego. Ubu ikoranabuhanga ryarabyoroheje ntibigisaba ingamiya, iposita cyangwa intumwa zitabarika.
Ubu ni byinshi
wakora ngo urukundo rwawe n’uwo muba ahatandukanye rukomere kandi bisigaye
byoroshye ugereranyije na kera aho byafataga igihe kitari gito. Ubu byaroroshye,
mwavugana umunsi ku wundi, birorshye cyane kuruta uko byahoze. Niwita kuri ibi
bintu bitanu, bizashoboka rwose;
1.Bibaho wihangayika
Ku ikubitiro
ushobora gutinya ko urukundo rwanyu rutazashoboka kuko wumva ko umukunzi wae
ari kure. Ariko wihangayika, birashoboka cyane ko mwakundana kandi urukundo
rwanyu rugashinga imizi rwose. Muzapanga guhura, muzajya muvugana, muzakomeza
kwita ku rukundo rwanyu kandi nta kibazo kirimo.
2.Muvugane kenshi kuri telefoni
Muri mu rukundo, ni
byiza. Murandikirana, ni byiza nabyo. Ariko ntabwo bihagije mukwiye no kuvugana
kuri telephone, niba hari ikigenda neza ntuzifate ngo ubibike, mushimire ibyiza
akora, umubwire ibitagenda neza mubiganireho bikemuke kuko mu kuvugana ubasha
kuvuga bimwe utabasha kwandika kuko n’ijwi ubwaryo ari naryo bikunze kuvugwa ko
ritugira abantu rizagufasha gutambutsa ubutumwa mu buryo ushaka kuruta
kubyandika kandi ntibizubahwa kimwe.
3.Ita cyane ku byo akubwira
Ibi ntibireba gusa
abakundana bataba ahantu hamwe, n’ababa hamwe birabareba ariko aha turi
kwibanda cyane ku bataba hamwe. Iyo muri kuvugana kuri telefoni, uretse kumva
wikirije nta bundi buryo wamwumvisha ko umuteze amatwi, ariko hari uburyo
bwinshi wamwereka ko witaye kubyo akubwira nyuma yo kuvugana nawe. Ashobora
kuba yakubwiye igitabo ashaka gusoma, ukamutungura ukakimuhamo impano, ashobora
kukubwira ko yabuze umwanya wo kujya kurya ukamutungura ibyo kurya bikamugeraho
atari abyiteze. Ni byinshi wakora, ashobora kukubwira ikintu yifuza gukora
ukabishyiramo imbaraga ukamufasha kubishyira mu bikorwa. Bizamereka ko wari
witaye cyane ku byo yakubwiraga igihe mwavuganaga.
4.Mushake ibindi bintu
bibahuza
Urukundo
rukomezwa n’ibintu bito rwose, urukundo rw’ababa ahatandukanye narwo rukenera
inkomezi zirimo no kuruzanamo udushya. Kuba mutari kumwe ntibivuze ko mutashaka
ibibahuza, mushobora gusomana igitabo, mwareba filimi imwe, mwarebana ibiganiro
muvugana kuri telephone, mwakorana amasuku, mwajyana ku rugendo muvugana n’ibindi.
5. Ihe umwanya wa
wenyine
Ubundi
buri rukundo rwose kugira ngo rukomere haba harimo n’igihe buri wese agira
wenyine akita kuri gahunda ze, mu iterambere rye ndetse akishima ari wenyine.
Kwiyitaho no kwita ku by’umwuga wawe n’akazi ukora ukaba wahugira no mu bindi,
ukagira ubuzima bwawe icy’ibanze, kubonana n’inshuti zawe n’ibindi . Ibi biguha
amahirwe yo kumva ko hari icyo ushoboye kwikorera, ndetse mu gihe uri no
kuganira n’umukunzi wawe ukabasha kumubwira ibyo wakoze mu gihe wari wenyine.
Ikindi
ni uko mu gihe buri wese afata ari wenyine, bituma mwongera kuvugana
mukumburanye buri wese afite byinshi byo kuganiriza mugenzi we.
TANGA IGITECYEREZO