Aragisha inama kubera umubano udasanzwe w'umukobwa we na Se

Uyu muryango umaze imyaka itanu urushinze, ariko bombi bari baratandukanye mbere yo guhura. Umugabo, w’imyaka 51, yakomeje kumenyana n’umukobwa we nyuma yo kubona ko ari umubyeyi we hakoreshejwe ibizamini bya DNA. Bahuye kandi batangira kumarana umwanya munini kugira ngo bamenyane neza nyuma y'igihe kirekire batari kumwe.

Uyu mugore yavuze ko adashimishwa no kubona uburyo umugabo we n’umukobwa we bakunze kugaragaza amarangamutima menshi mu buryo buhambaye. Avuga ko bakunze kugirana imikoranire idasanzwe, nko gukorakoranaho, ndetse bakandikirana ubutumwa bwuzuye inyandiko z’urukundo n’amarangamutima y’urukundo.

Mu birori bya nyuma by’umuryango, umugore avuga ko yabonye umugabo we n’umukobwa we bakora imigenzo irenze urugero, ndetse ababona basa nkaho bashaka gusomana. Ibi byamuteye impungenge nyinshi ku mutima.

Uyu mugore kandi avuga ko yibajije niba ibyo abona bitari ibimenyetso bya "Genetic Sexual Attraction" (GSA), aho abavandimwe bashobora kugira amarangamutima adasanzwe yo gukundana cyangwa gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina, byumwihariko iyo bahuye bamaze gukura. Ariko, avuga ko atazi niba ibyo abona ari ukwibeshya cyangwa niba impungenge ze zifite ishingiro.

Mu gusubiza uyu mugore, Dear Deidre yasobanuriye ko iyi ari intambwe isaba igihe cyane, kandi ko umugabo ari kugerageza kubaka umubano mwiza n’umukobwa we mu buryo bwo kwiyunga n’umuryango mushya. 

Yongeyeho ko GSA ari ibintu bihambaye kandi bidakunze kuba, ndetse ko itandukaniro ry’imyaka hagati y’umugabo n’umukobwa we ribangamira cyane amakuru avuga ko bashobora kugira umubano ugamije ikintu kibi.

Dear Deidre yasabye umugore kubanza kuganira n’umukobwa we kugira ngo bimufashe gutekana mu mibanire yabo. Yamusabye kandi kubonana n’umugabo we, bakaganira neza, kugira ngo umubano wabo ukomeze gutera imbere. Igihe kizagera, kandi ibyiza byo kumenyana neza bizahindura Uko kubuzima bwagendaga.