Menya amoko 5 y'urukundo mu mboni z'abahanga

Amoko y’urukundo yibanda ku buryo urukundo rugaragazwa, uburyo abantu barubamo, n’uburyo bw’imibanire hagati yabo. Dore amoko atanu y’urukundo abahanga benshi bahuriraho:

1. Eros (Urukundo rw’ishyaka n’ibyumviro)

Eros ni urukundo rusobanura ibyiyumviro by’umuntu mu gihe akunda undi, ahanini bushingiye ku gukundana k’umubiri, imisusire y’umubiri cyangwa imitekerereze y’umuntu. Urukundo rwa Eros rurangwa n’ibyiyumviro bikomeye ndetse n’ishyaka rikomeye rishobora kubaho mu ntangiriro y’urukundo cyangwa mu gihe abantu bafitanye isano ikomeye. 

Ni urukundo rugaragara cyane mu mibanire ya romantique aho abantu bakundana kubera uburyo bafite inyungu ku mubiri w’umuntu cyangwa ku buryo bagaragaza amarangamutima yihariye hagati yabo.

Ibyavuzwe kuri Eros: Platoni yavuze ko urukundo rwa Eros rushobora kuba rufite imbaraga nyinshi mu gutuma abantu bava mu bwigunge, ariko ko rukeneye guhungabana kuko rwubakiye ku kintu kitari kigari, nk’uko rugaragara mu gihe ubushake bw’umubiri burangira cyangwa igihe ibyiyumviro bihindutse.

2. Storge (Urukundo rw’ubuvandimwe n’ishuti):

Urukundo rwa Storge ni urukundo rukomoka ku bushuti bw’ukuri hagati y’inshuti cyangwa abavandimwe. Ni urukundo ruba mu miryango cyangwa hagati y’abantu bafite isano idakomeye ku bindi by’amarangamutima, ahubwo bushingiye ku bumwe no gukundana kubera igihe umuntu yabayeho n’undi mu buryo bworoshye. Ni urukundo rw’ubwumvikane, rutarenze urukundo rw’umuryango cyangwa inshuti.

Ibyavuzwe ku Storge: Aristotle yagaragaje ko urukundo rwa Storge ari urukundo rworoshye kandi rukomeza igihe kirekire, kubera ko rufite ishingiro rishingiye ku bwumvikane n’ubushuti hagati y’abantu, aho abantu bakundana bagendeye ku buzima bwabo bwa buri munsi.

3. Ludus (Urukundo rw’imikino n’ishyaka):

Urukundo rwa Ludus ni urukundo rushimangira ibintu bitari bihamye, aho abantu bagaragaza ibyishimo no kugaragaza amarangamutima ariko badashaka kugera ku ntego y’ubuzima burambye. 

Ni urukundo rw’imikino, rukunze kugaragara mu myaka y’urubyiruko cyangwa mu gihe abantu bakora ibikorwa by’urukundo byoroheje kandi byoroshye. Rushobora kuba rwiza mu bihe by’impushya, ariko rufite intege nke mu gihe cyo gushaka kubaka urukundo rufite intego nyinshi.

Ibyavuzwe kuri Ludus: Abahanga bavuga ko urukundo rwa Ludus rushobora kuba rugaragaza urukundo rw’imikino aho abantu bashimishanya ariko batitaye ku byiyumviro bihamye n’ibikorwa by’umuryango, bityo rusaba ubushishozi mu gihe rufite ingaruka ku mibanire y’abantu.

4. Pragma (Urukundo rufite intego n’inyungu):

Urukundo rwa Pragma ni urukundo rwubatswe ku ntego zihamye. Abantu bakunda kuri uru rukundo bakunze kuba bafite inyungu cyangwa intego z’ubuzima zihamye nk’amafaranga, imiryango, cyangwa gutegura ejo hazaza heza. Urukundo rwa Pragma rukunze kugaragara mu mibanire y’abashakanye, aho hakenewe kuganira ku byerekeye imibereho n’intego zabo mu mibereho ya buri munsi.

Ibyavuzwe kuriPragma: Abahanga, nka Aristotle, bavuze ko urukundo rwa Pragma rushimangira imibanire ishingiye ku ntego nyinshi, kandi ko rufite imbaraga zo kubaho igihe kirekire kuko rufasha abantu kugera ku ntego zihamye mu buzima, nubwo rudashingira ku byiyumviro gusa.

5. Agape (Urukundo rwiza rudasubira inyuma):

Agape ni urukundo rusobanura ubwitange, impuhwe n’ikirenga ku muntu wese. Ni urukundo rutari ku nyungu z’umuntu cyangwa ku byiyumviro, ahubwo rugaragaza gukunda abandi nta kiguzi. 

Agape ni urukundo rusanga mu buryo bw’umuryango cyangwa mu gihe umuntu akunda abandi atitaye ku byo bamugenera. Ni urukundo rufite ubushobozi bwo gutanga no kwitangira undi mu buryo bwagutse, rutari igikorwa cy’agasuzuguro.

Ibyavuzwe kuri Agape: Abahanga nk’abasoma mu myitwarire y’abakiristu cyangwa izindi ndimi z’imyemerere, basobanura Agape nk’urukundo rutari ku giti cy’umuntu, ahubwo rugaragaza uburyo umuntu ashyira imbere imibereho ya bagenzi be atitaye ku inyungu ze bwite.

Aya moko y’urukundo yose atangwa na abahanga, agaragaza uburyo butandukanye abantu bakundana kandi uko urukundo rushobora kugaragaza mu buryo bwagutse. Gusa, iyo urebye muri rusange, hari ibintu bihuriweho n’aya moko y’urukundo: urugwiro, ubwumvikane, no kubana neza n’abandi. Ibyo byose bigamije gufasha abantu kumva neza imibanire yabo no kwitwara neza mu buryo bw’urukundo.

Umwanditsi : Rose Mary Yadufashije