Mu rukundo nta wifuza nabi kandi yashyizemo imbaraga ze zose kuko bibabaza cyane ndetse bikanavuna. Ku bakobwa rero, hari ibimenyetso bishobora kukwereka ko umuhungu muri mu rukundo agufata uko yishakiye ndetse igihe icyo ari cyo cyose mushobora gutandukana.
Hari ibintu bishobora kukwereka ko umuhungu
mukundana afite icyo agushakaho kuko ntiyagufata uko ashaka nta mpamvu yabyo.
Muri iyi nkuru, umunyamakuru wa INYARWANDA yagerageje kwereka abakobwa bimwe mu
byabereka ko abasore bakundana babafata uko bashaka kubera inyungu zabo bwite;
1.Ntafite
ubwoba bwo kukubura
Mukobwa, niba umusore mukundana atajya yumva ko
kukubura bimuhangayikishije rwose, ni ikimenyetso cy’uko akubuze ntacyo yaba
ahombye, bityo kugufata uko ashaka ni uko yumva ko utabona undi nkawe murekanye
kuko yumva waramuhenze.
2.Ntajya
akwihanganira
Umugabo ugufata uko yishakiye, agutura uburakari
kenshi, ntiyakihanganira ikosa ryawe ahubwo ahora akumvisha ko ari mu kuri
iteka ntanaguhe umwanya wo kwisobanura.
3.Ni
gake aguhamagara iyo wamubuze
Ugasanga wamuhamagaye uramubura, aho abiboneye
ntashobore kuguhamagara ngo amenye n’icyo washakaga kumubwira. Ahubwo agahora
aguha impamvu y’uko yari ahuze cyangwa yibagiwe kuguhamagara. Ni uko uko
agufata atari ibikwiye abakundana, agufata uko we abyishakiye gusa.
4.Ntashobora
kwemera ikosa rye
Mu buzima bivugwa kenshi ko nta muntu udakosa, ariko
umusore ufite icyo ashaka kuri wowe, nta na rimwe azabona ko yagukoreye ikosa
mukobwa mwiza, yumva ko kugusaba imbabazi ari igitutsi kuri we.
5.Wumve
udakwiriye
Niba utangiye kwiyumva nk’udashimwa, udakwiriye,
ukumva kubabara byakubereye inshuti mu rukundo rwawe, ni uko umukunzi wawe
ahora agufata nk’imburamumaro, akagupfobya uko yishakiye.
6.Kwitanga
kwawe ntikwitabwaho
Ugasanga urihiringa, ukitanga cyane ukanakora
ibishoboka byose ngo urukundo rwanyu rukomere. Niba agufata uko ashatse cyangwa
afite icyo agushakaho, ibyo uzakora byose bizaba impfabusa kuri we.
7.Nturi
inyambere kuri we
Umusore ugufata uko ashaka ntashobora gutuma wumva
ko uri uw’ingenzi mu buzima bwe. Ahubwo uzisanga uhora wibaza niba hari n’ikibanza
ufite mu buzima bwe bikuyobere.
8.Yibagirwa
cyane ibintu bikwerekeyeho
Twagiye tubigarukah kenshi koutuntu duto ari two
dukomeza urukundo cyane ndetse tukaba twanarusenya. Niba umusore atangiye
kwibagirwa ibikwerekeyeho, isabukuru, iminsi yihariye mu buzima bwawe,
ntazanita kumenya uko umeze kuko agufata uko yiboneye.
9.Ntashobora
kwibagirwa ikosa ryawe
Mu gihe ku ngingo ya 4 twavuze ko adashobora kwemera
ikosa ndetse no mu ya 2 tukagaruka ku kuba ahora yumva ari mu kuri, n’iyo
wamubera mwiza gute ntashobora kwibagirwa amakosa yawe, azahora ayakwibutsa ngo
akwereke ko uri umunyamabi gusa kuko uko agufata ni ibyo kugushakaho intonganya
gusa.
10.Ibyiza
umukoreye abifata nk’ibisanzwe
Iyo umukunzi wawe agufata uko yishakiye, ikiza cyose
wamukorera yumva ko byari inshingano zawe, n’ubwo waba ubikoze ari agashya ntazabyitaho
ahubwo kutabikora nibwo azakurakarira akaba yanakubwira nabi.
Ibyakwereka ko umukunzi wawe agufata uko ashaka byo
ni byinshi kuko buri wese agira uko areba agereranyije n’ibikwiye urukundo
koko. Mukobwa, niba umuhungu mukundana agufata gutya ese witeguye gukomezanya
nawe kugeza ryari? Utekereza ko impamvu yabyo ari iyihe? Umuti mwiza kuri byo
ni ukuganira n’umukunzi wawe, mukareba aho ikibazo kiri mukagikemura.
Byananirana n’ubwo ntawe tubyifurije, mukarekera aho mwembi kuryana imitima
kuko ntimwazubaka ngo rukomere igihe nta wishimiye undi.
TANGA IGITECYEREZO