Ibintu 9 umugore akora iyo yumva adatekanye mu rukundo

Iyo umugore atangiye kumva ko uwo bakundana cyangwa bashakanye atamuha umutekano w’amarangamutima akeneye, ashobora guhindura imyitwarire ye buhoro buhoro, akajya akora ibintu bitandukanye agamije kwirinda gukomeretswa cyangwa kurushaho kubabazwa.

Nk’uko tubikesha urubuga Your Tango, hari ibintu 9 umugore ashobora gutangira gukora iyo yumva atagiteganya byinshi mu marangamutima y’umubano we:

1. Guhitamo ibyo avuga n’ibyo ahisha

Mu mubano mwiza, umuntu akwiye kumva ko ashobora kubwira mugenzi we ibitekerezo bye, ibimushimisha n’ibimuhangayikishije, adatinya kubwirwa nabi cyangwa kunengwa.

Ariko iyo umugore atangiye kumva adatekanye mu marangamutima, ashobora gutangira gupima amagambo avuga. Ashobora kwibaza niba ibyo agiye kuvuga bitarakaza uwo bari kumwe cyangwa ngo bitume havuka amakimbirane.

2. Gukurikiranira hafi uko uwo bakundana ameze

Umugore ushobora kumva ko umutekano w’amarangamutima ye uterwa n’uko uwo bakundana ameze, ashobora gutangira gukurikirana cyane imimerere ye.

Ashobora kwibaza ati: “Uyu munsi ari kwiyumva ate?”, “Ni iki namubwira ntarakare?”, cyangwa “Ese hari ikintu namukoze cyamubabaje?”

Ibi bishobora kumutera guhora yitwararika cyane, kugeza aho yumva ari nk’aho agendera ku magi, atinya ikintu cyose cyatuma uwo bari kumwe arakara.

3. Gushaka kwiharira inshingano

Kwiyubakira ubushobozi bwo kwigira ni byiza, ariko hari igihe umuntu ashobora gukabya kwigira kubera ko aba adafite icyizere cyo gusaba ubufasha.

Umugore udatekanye mu marangamutima ashobora gutangira kwikorera ibintu byose wenyine, akirinda gusaba ubufasha cyangwa kwishingikiriza kuri mugenzi we.

Rimwe na rimwe, ibi bishobora kuba uburyo bwo kwirinda kongera gutenguhwa cyangwa kubabazwa. Ashobora kwibwira ko niba yikoreye byose, atazongera gutegereza ubufasha bw’umuntu ushobora kumutenguha.

4. Guhitamo guceceka aho gutongana

Amakimbirane ni kimwe mu bintu bishobora kubaho mu mubano uwo ari wo wose. Icy’ingenzi ni uburyo abantu bayakemuramo.

Iyo umugore yumva adatekanye, ashobora kutongera gushaka gutongana cyangwa gusobanura uko abona ibintu. Ahubwo ashobora kwicecekera no gucisha make.

Muri icyo gihe, intego ye iba atari ugutsinda impaka, ahubwo iba ari ukwirinda ibindi bimubabaza.

5. Kumarana igihe kinini n’abandi bamwitaho

Iyo umugore yumva ko atagishobora kubona ihumure n’ubufasha ku muntu bakundana, ashobora kurushaho kwegera inshuti, umuryango cyangwa abandi bantu bamwitaho.

Kugira abantu bo hanze y’umubano ushobora kuganira na bo ni ingenzi. Umuntu ntakwiye gutandukana n’inshuti cyangwa umuryango kubera ko ari mu rukundo.

Ku mugore wumva adatekanye mu marangamutima, abo bantu bashobora kumubera ahantu yumva atekanye, akababwira ibimuhangayikishije ndetse akabonamo ihumure atabona mu mubano we.

6. Kwitakariza icyizere

Ni ibisanzwe ko umuntu rimwe na rimwe ashaka ko uwo bakundana amwizeza ko amukunda, amwitayeho kandi ko umubano wabo ufite agaciro.

Ariko iyo umugore amaze igihe asaba ihumure cyangwa icyizere ntabihe agaciro, cyangwa akabyakirwa nabi, ashobora kureka kubisaba burundu.

Ashobora kumva ko nta cyo bimaze kongera gusaba icyo atazahabwa. Bityo, aho gusaba uwo bakundana kumuhumuriza, ahitamo kwigumira mu byiyumvo bye.

7. Guhisha ibyamubabaje

Mu mubano mwiza, umuntu akwiye kumva ko ashobora kubwira mugenzi we ibimuhangayikishije, yaba ari ikibazo kijyanye n’umubano cyangwa ikindi kibazo cyo mu buzima bwe.

Ariko iyo umugore yumva ko atacyemerewe kuvuga ibimubabaza, ashobora gutangira kubyigumanira.

Ashobora kugira ubwoba ko kuvuga ibibazo bye bizateza amakimbirane, kunengwa cyangwa kutumvwa. Bityo, aho kuvuga, ahitamo kubicecekera.

Ibi bishobora gutuma ibibazo bikomeza kwiyongera mu mutima, nubwo hanze ashobora kugaragara nk’aho byose ari amahoro.

8. Kugenzura cyane uko agaragaza amarangamutima

Umugore utagitekanye mu marangamutima ashobora gutangira kugenzura cyane uko yitwara n’uko agaragaza ibyiyumvo bye.

Ashobora kugerageza kutagaragaza uburakari, umubabaro cyangwa ibyishimo bikabije, kugira ngo atagira ikintu gitera mugenzi we kurakara cyangwa gutuma ibintu birushaho kuba bibi.

9. Kugabanya cyangwa guhagarika kugaragaza urukundo

Umubano mwiza ushingira ku kugaragarizanya urukundo no gutuma buri wese yumva ko afite agaciro kuri mugenzi we.

Ariko biragora cyane ko umugore agaragariza urukundo umuntu atuma yumva adatekanye mu rukundo.

Iyo umugore atangiye gukora ibi bintu, ntibisobanuye buri gihe ko atagikunda uwo bari kumwe. Rimwe na rimwe, bishobora kuba ikimenyetso cy’uko atangiye kwirinda kubera ko atacyumva afite umutekano mu marangamutima.

Umubano mwiza usaba ko abantu bombi bumva ko bashobora kuvuga, gutega amatwi, kwizerana no kugaragarizanya urukundo batinya gucirwa urubanza cyangwa gukomeretswa.

Iyo umuntu atangiye guhora yirinda uwo bakundana aho kumwiyumvamo umutekano, ni ikimenyetso cy’uko hari ikibazo gikwiye kuganirwaho no gushakirwa igisubizo.