Amabanga atuma abashakanye barushaho kugira umubano mwiza

Abahanga mu by'imibanire y'abashakanye bagerageje gutanga ibintu byoroshye guhindura hashingiwe ku byo abashakanye banyuzwe bakora kandi bikabubakira by’ukuri bimwe muri ibyo bintu ni ibi bikurirkira:

Iyo baryamye ntibasigamo umwanya: Ubushakashatsi bwakozwe na kaminuza ya Hertfordshire bugaragaza ko 94% by'abashakanye iyo baryamye imibiri ikoranaho baba babanye neza mu gihe 68% by'abarara batandukanye, umubano wabo uba urimo akangononwa niba wifuza kugirana umubano mwiza na mugenzi wawe, kuramo metero hagati yanyu mu gihe muryamye.

Ibiganiro byabo biba bishimishije: Impuguke mu mibanire y’abashakanye, Dr. Terri Orbuch yagize ati "Abashakanye benshi bavuga ibitagenda neza mu mibanire yabo, ariko ubushakashatsi bwerekanye ko abibanda ku bintu bigenda neza igihe kirekire kurusha abagerageza "gukemura" ibibazo byabo abo ni bo babanye neza. 

Niba Imibonano mpuzabitsina igenda neza, mukaba mugirana ubwumvane hagati yanyu nta cyabuza umubano wanyu kuba mwiza, niba wifuza umubano mwiza na mugenzi wawe irinde kumubwira ibitagenda neza gusa ahubwo urebe no ku ruhande rwiza.

Bakora imibonano mpuzabitsina byibuze rimwe mu cyumweru: Iyi ngingo ishobora kuguhangayikisha cyangwa kugutera ibyishimo, ubushakashatsi bwasohotse mu kinyamakuru Social Psychological and Personality Science bwerekanye ko gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina rimwe mu cyumweru biganisha ku byishimo byinshi mu mibanire y’abashakanye ndetse ngo ni rimwe mu mabanga akoreshwa mu kugira umubano mwiza w’abashakanye kuruta ababikora buri munsi.

Biyuhagirira hamwe: Ubushakashatsi bwasohotse mu kinyamakuru cy’ubushakashatsi bw’imibonano mpuzabitsina bwerekanye ko abagabo n’abagore banyuzwe n’umubano wabo bakunze kwiyuhagirira hamwe, bikaba nabyo biri mu mabanga akoreshwa mu kugira umubano mwiza. Niba nawe wifuza umubano mwiza na mugenzi wawe musabe ko mujyana kwiyuhagira.

Ntibashishikazwa n’imbuga nkoranyambaga mu gihe bari kumwe: Ubushakashatsi bwasohotse mu kinyamakuru Cyberpsychology, bwerekanye ko abakoresha Facebook ntabwo bagira umubano mwiza na bagenzi babo kuko bahora bari busy. Byongeye kandi, iperereza ryakozwe ku rubuga rwo gukundana OkCupid ryerekanye ko gukoresha imbuga nkoranyambaga cyane uri kumwe n’uwo mwashakanye bishobora kwica umubano wanyu. Nta kibi kiri mu kuba ukoresha imbuga nkoranyambaga zisanzwe, ariko menya neza ko uwawe na we agukeneye maze umubano wanyu urusheho kuba mwiza.

Iteka barashimagizanya: "Ufite agafoto keza", "Uyu munsi watetse neza", "Akazi kagenze neza?" Dr. Orbuch atanga inama agira ati: "Gushimagizanya  biroroshye kandi birema umubano mwiza,  Abashakanye benshi bakora amakosa yo gutegereza ibihe bidasanzwe, nk’umunsi w’amavuko cyangwa iminsi mikuru, kugirango bagaragaze ibyiyumvo byabo kuri bagenzi babo  ariko kureka umukunzi wawe agahora yumva adasanzwe (cyane cyane abagabo) bituma abashakanye barushaho kubana neza  mu byishimo bihoraho.

Src: Parledamour.fr