Umuhanga umwe yaravuzengo 'ukuri ntikugurwa ariko ibinyoma birahenda'. Muri iki gihe abantu bake ni bo bashobora kuba bahagarara ku kuri mu byo bavuga byose. Ushobora kwibaza uti kubera iki? Nubwo waba warabeshye ukabona uwo ubeshye arabyirengagije ntibikuyeho ko wabeshye kuko n'iyo wabwira umuntu ngo uramukunda mu by'ukuri utamukunda uba ubeshye.
Mu bushakashatsi bwakozwe n’umuhanga mu mitekerereze ya muntu ndetse n’imivugire y’umubiri ibyo benshi bakunze kwita mu ndimi z’amahanga 'Body language' Dr.Lillian Glass yasohoye mu gitabo yise ‘The body Language of Liars’ bugaragaza bimwe mu bimenyetso byakwereka ko umuntu ibyo ari kukubwira akubeshya ndetse n’uburyo ki umuntu w’umubeshyi yitwara haba mu mivugire ndetse no mu bimenyetso akoresha avuga. Si ibyo gusa Dr.Lillian Glass akaba yaranakoranye na FBI Ikigo cy’Abanyamerika gishinzwe kugenza ibyaba aho babaga bashaka ibimenyetso byahishwe.
Nk'uko ubushakashatsi bukomeza kubivuga ngo kugira ngo umenye ko umuntu ari kukubeshya bisaba kwitonda ukumva amagambo avuga ndetse n'uko umubiri we uvuga ibyo bakunze kwita mu ndimi z’amahanga body language. Nkuko tubikesha urubuga www.awesomeinventions.com rugaragaza bimwe mu bimenyetso bikubiye mu gitabo cyanditswe na Dr.Lillian Glass byakwereka ko umuntu ari kukubeshya.
Dore ibimenyetso 10
byakwereka ko umuntu ibyo avuga ari kukubeshya
1. Iyo muvugana
ahindura amerekezo y’umutwe byihuse
Mu gihe ubonye umuntu umubajije ikibazo agahita ahindura
umutwe byihuse mbere yo kugusubiza ubushakashatsi bwagaragaje ko aba agiye
kukubwira ibintu birimo ibinyoma.
2. Impumeko ye irahinduka
Iyo umuntu umubajije ikintu iyo agiye kugusubiza ibinyoma
atangira kuvuga bimugoye akazamura intugu ndetse n'akajwi kakaba gato mbega
akavuga mu ijwi ritandukanye n'iryo wari umuziho.
3. Umuntu ugiye kubeshya ahagarara yemye
Umuntu ugiye kubeshya ahagarara yemye mu buryo bwo kwirinda
kugira ngo batamuvumbura ko ari kubeshya mbega aba yikomeje uko ashoboye kose.
4. Umuntu uri
kubeshya asubiramo amagambo cyangwa interuro iyo ari kuvuga
Ibi ngibi abikora kugira ngo abemeze neza (convince) mwemere
ibyo ari kuvuga nk'ukuri. Gusubiramo amagambo ni bimwe mu bifasha umuntu kugira ngo
abone igihe cyo gutekereza cyangwa umwanya wo kuzana ibindi bitekerezo biri kure.
5. Umuntu uri
kubeshya yifata ku munwa
Ibi biba mu buryo bwo kwirinda ibibazo yasubiza mbese yaguye
mu kantu cyangwa se yabuze uko abeshya.
6. Umuntu uri kubeshya iyo agiye gusubiza yifata ku bice bimwe na bimwe by’umubiri
Avuga yifashe cyangwa yishima ku bice bimwe na bimwe by’umubiri
urugero amatama, umuhogo, ku nda ndetse rimwe na rimwe hari igihe avuga yifashe no mu mutwe.
7. Mukuvuga kwe umuntu uri kubeshya aba
ari gushimangira ibintu cyane
Avuga ashimangira ibintu kugira ngo abikwemeze neza ko ari ukuri.
8. Atanga amakuru
menshi n'adakenewe
Amagambo menshi ni bimwe mu biranga umuntu uri kubeshya. Gusa
umuntu uri kubeshya aba yibwira ko kuvuga amagambo menshi bimugaragaza
nk'umunyakuri.
9. Umuntu uri kubeshya biramugora kuvuga
Kubera ibitekerezo biba byamubanye byinshi ashaka uburyo bwo guteka imitwe. Umuntu uri kubeshya akenshi usanga iminwa ye yumye ndetse akenshi na kenshi usanga n’iminwa ye yaguye.
10. Umuntu uri kubeshya arareba cyane adahumbya
Kureba cyane ni mwe mu ntwaro y’umuntu uba ari kubeshya, kureba
cyane adahumbya abikora agira ngo ase n'utera ubwoba uwo bavugana kugira ngo yumve
anizere y'uko ibyo ari kuvuga ari ukuri.
Nubwo ubushakashatsi bwagaragaje bimwe mu byakwerekako umuntu
ari kubeshya, si byiza ko uko ubonye umuntu agaragaje ibi bimenyetso uhita
uvuga ngo ari kubeshya ahubwo ugomba kugira ubushishozi no kumenya guhuza ibyo
bimenyetso kugira ngo ubone amakuru ya nyayo kandi yizewe.
Src: www.businessinsider.com,
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TANGA IGITECYEREZO